No more nice guy (girl)

So I’m a pretty nice person. I am a people pleaser, don’t like to upset people, and usually let things that upset me slide. I avoid confrontation. I don’t really say what I really think and always try to smooth things over.

But that is all stopping.

I’ve been working towards being more assertive and not letting other’s feelings go before mine any longer. Obviously there is a time and place to do that, but in general, enough is enough. I’m not just letting things go anymore and I’m standing up for myself. That includes eliminating the toxic “friends” in my life. I’ve been slowly doing that for awhile now, but it’s more full-fledged now. I’ve eliminated friends on Myspace, Facebook and from my phone. Because once you’re outta my phone, you’re outta my life. I’ve deleted emails, and ignored texts and phone calls. Some may call this harsh, I call it self-preservation. Because I’ve finally realized that its better to have friends of quality rather than friends of quantity. In addition, I’m going to start saying what I really think instead of what is socially correct. After all, I have to live with myself, right?

This was my New Year’s Resolution, and I did implement parts of it, but it’s a little difficult whilst studying for the bar exam. Starting a blog was a great part of this plan, because if I can’t be honest on here and say what I really feel and think, how can I do that in “real life”?

Anyone have any suggestions?